Growing up, were you taught you are half of a person and to look for someone in life to complete you? Or, were you taught you are a whole person meant to connect with other whole people? One of these is healthy, the other is co-dependent. In this episode, Dawn talks about the whole person and 3 blocks to authentically connecting to others.
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“If you don’t know your worth, if you don’t know your value, if you don’t know how fantabulous you are —it’s going to be hard for other people to see it. Being appreciative of self is beauty to me.” ~ Kelly Rowland
Show notes:
You were created for connection and you reflect God’s image. God is the originator of connection. This truth is seen with how He relates to himself– the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit; they are separate, yet, they are one.
You are never meant to do for another, what another can do for themselves.
When your relationships become more about looking for someone to attach to for security, for peace, and for rest, then you have overstepped God’s intention for your life. People will then become your idol and you will lose sight of your own sense of self, becoming unattached with the One who truly matters~ God.
3 Blocks to Authentic Connection:
- You don’t know your own story and don’t work towards redemption; you give yourself away, trying to control another, eventually becoming codependent
- You fail to invest in and/or listen to your body and your needs toward becoming healthy and whole
- You are not in the habit of celebrating yourself
6 Ways To Promote Authentic Connection:
- Stand up for yourself~ you are responsible for your own voice.
- Take notice of how your body responds in various situations~ take a time out, if needed, to become more grounded.
- Relinquish reactivity or hyper attentiveness in responding to others.
- Fall in love with ‘do overs’.
- Speak into the dignity in another’s life.
- Go crazy for your ‘time ins’~ doing what you love.
Conclusion:
When you are solid in yourself~ well connected to your mind, body, spirit, and growing in your relationship with God, the chances of being able to enjoy relationships with greater authenticity grows exponentially.
Gen 1:27; Rom 16:17-18; Heb 10:24; Col 2:2; Col 3:14; Matt 6:33; I Cor 3:16; Ps 1:1-3; I Cor 6:19-20; I Cor 8:6; 2 Cor 13:14; John 15:26; John 1:1; Matt 18:21-22; I John 1:9; Gal 6:5; Matt 12:37; Col 3:13